by D.M. Atkins
The number one fantasy that has come through our submissions in the last three months is of an older woman, usually also having been a high school teacher, who seduces a young man who comes over to do yard work and/or is the son of a friend of hers.
This seems that it’s an important fantasy for many male readers.
And yet, every one of these stories has been so shallow, so lacking in heat or depth, as to be mind-numbing boring.
I don’t believe the problem is the subject matter, but the way it has been handled.
Do writers lack the courage and imagination to really explore this powerful dynamic?
If you search the web, you can find a lot of real life stories of men who have found older women who taught them about life as well as sex. Some of these relationships are long term enduring loves. They have a lot to say about the triumphs and pitfalls of such an age disparity.
Yet, so far, all the stories on this theme have fallen horribly short. They have been shallow caricatures of what these relationships involve.
I wonder if the people writing them have done any research into social, legal and moral dilemmas people in the cross-generational relationships can be like. Even if both characters are over eighteen, they still would face the censure of a society that does not understand such an age gap in sexual relationships, especially when the older person is the woman.
The characters are seemly unaware of anything other than getting laid. Every story we have gotten has been shallow, with no thought of the social dynamics or personal struggles involved in such relationships. Writers barely stop to consider what this kind of relationships brings to each person’s life.
What’s sad about this is that there are a lot of powerful possibilities in the dynamic that if done well could be a brilliant story – emotionally moving as well as sexually arousing. How do two people at such different places in their lives negotiate the different needs, experiences and expectations? What do they give each other that no one else could? How does this change their lives? What are the problems with their differing power via the world and each other?
Do you really think any woman (or man), especially one who taught young adults, isn’t aware of the boundary she would be crossing in this kind of relationship? How does she deal with the ethical, legal and social challenges of the situation? What rewards does it give her? There has to be more to it than “getting laid,” especially with a character who has resisted doing this for years.
And any young man (or woman) who knowingly gets involved with someone significantly older than them does so for more than sex. There the allure of power and knowledge, the mentoring from someone who can teach more than peers. There is also the forbidden nature of it, the rule breaking.
ForbiddenFiction.com is not a place to send meaningless sex fantasies. There are plenty of other places for that kind of boring porn.
If you are going to send us this story (any story) – give us fully developed characters whose emotions and minds are as involved in what is going on as their bodies. We want stories that go to the heart of the matter, make it messy and complicated, and very, very real.